Couples in therapy often ask me - How often do couples fight? It’s a legitimate question, but most of the time I don’t think they’re really asking me a question. I think they’re trying to tell me ...

Most of us don’t know how to make a real apology. That’s not surprising, because most of us have been taught from early childhood how to give fake apologies. You probably first learned how to give an ...

When the sex stops in your relationship, or you start having sex much less frequently, people usually think that it means there’s been a change in desire. They try to explain the change in their ...

For every couple, there are some topics that are sure to cause a fight. For some, it's the kids, money, vacations, household chores, or what Netflix movie to watch. But even though these conversations ...

Perhaps the most common issue that brings someone to therapy, revolves around their difficulty creating and maintaining close personal relationships. This can be friendships and/or romantic ...

Couples often come to therapy with the idea that the goal is to be able to “get along” or “stop fighting”. That makes sense, because all that conflict, whether it comes out as yelling or the silent ...

My guess is that the conversation went something like this: She says: You won’t believe what those jerks at work did this time (shifting blame onto others). They moved the sales meeting to the end of ...

All couples fight. It’s just a natural part of being a couple. I tell all my clients that the goal is not to stop having fights, the goal is to learn how to quickly repair the rifts that fights can ...

The phrase “Emotional Processing” or “Processing your Emotions” has become extremely popular recently. But what exactly does it actually mean? If you go online, you’ll find a million different ...

Grief is usually associated with the mourning process that comes after a loved one dies. But, in most cases, grief actually begins well before death. This is true both for the person who dies, who ...

Some friction between parents and their adult children is inevitable. It happens in every family. Yet, while these conflicts are common to all families, some families are able to weather the storm and ...

I lead a grief group every Saturday in San Francisco. And one of the most common complaints from grievers is that people won’t let them to talk about their grief. After a death, the world will give ...